I have been a tomboy ever since I can remember. My mom is a girly girl who loves dresses, makeup, jewelry, high heels, etc. and having a tomboy as an only daughter was a bit disappointing for her. Much to my dismay, my mother was always sending me to school in dresses, tights and hair bows. As soon as I was out of her sight though, out came the hair bows, off came the tights and I would do whatever I could to my dress to make it less frilly looking. My mom finally gave up by the middle of first grade and started letting me choose my clothes, which were jeans, t-shirts/sweatshirts, sneakers and hair down.
I now have four girls of my own. They are 21, 18, 4 and 3. (I know, big age difference there!) Every time I was pregnant, I wished for a boy because I was worried I’d have girly girl and wouldn’t know what to do with her. lol With my two older girls, one is a bit girly and the other is more of a tomboy. I let them be who they want to be without hindering them in any way. My oldest girl wanted to wear skirts, dresses and dress shoes, so that’s what I bought her. My second girl wanted jeans, t-shirts and sneakers, so that’s what she got.
Now with my two little ones, I see the same thing happening. My 4 year old likes dresses and also to dress up as a princess or ballerina. My 3 year old though likes sweatpants, no shirt, no socks, no shoes. lol When she gets out a play costume, it’s almost always an animal costume or the Super Woman costume.
I don’t want my girls to be unhappy and uncomfortable with the way they look just because I like it. I want my girls to be comfortable and happy being who they are meant to be. If that person happens to like dresses, makeup, bows, etc., then so be it!
So, to frill or not to frill? This is a question that should be answered by your girls. Let them decide if they want to be frilly, be a tomboy or in-between. By doing so, I believe you will have a much happier girl than one who isn’t allowed to be herself. I know I was much happier when my mother gave up on the frills! (my dad’s wallet was happier too!)